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More anxious on a Valentine's Day? Here's what you can do

Valentine's Day isn't a day that everyone is excited about. Last year I wrote about being alone on a Valentine's Day and what you can do (what I used to do) to feel a little bit better. It's also possible to start feeling anxious, because this day may trigger emotions that we constantly try to avoid. Maybe it's loneliness from being single or maybe it's memories that are associated with 14th of February that make us feel uncomfortable, or maybe we are in unhappy relationship. Depression or/and anxiety during holidays isn't something new. We often experience them during Christmas and Thanksgiving for various reasons, but let's talk about Valentine's anxiety and what you can do to make yourself feel better. 

Feel your emotions

As much as we want to avoid unpleasant emotions, they are a part of life. It's important to feel them even though it's hard. If you are feeling anxious ask yourself what it is that makes you feel this way. Maybe that old breakup is still causing you pain, or maybe you are afraid that you are never going to be loved. Let yourself cry if you need to, maybe journal about it or share it with someone if you can. It's ok to be sad. Many times, we are ashamed of our feelings, and this inner conflict (inability to let it out, suppression) makes us anxious. 

Remember, this day shall pass soon

What's good about holidays is that they don't last forever. So, this time is a great opportunity to stop and reflect, and then move forward. You will most likely feel better once it's passed. This thought itself may help you feel a little bit better. 

Let someone know you care about them

I think it's practiced more these days, and I like this trend. Valentine's Day isn't just about romantic love but love in general. Of course, we don't need a special day to celebrate our loved ones, we don't need to always spend money to show our love but focusing on something positive during this timw can distract you from self-loathing. Send virtual cards or text messages to people you love. Most likely they will respond back, and it will help you feel less alone. 

It can also be useful to shift focus from yourself and think about other people. Maybe someone feels the same way as you do, and they need support. Helping someone out will help you with your own anxiety.

Practice self-love

Last, but not least, always remember that holidays provide you with an opportunity to practice self-love. I understand it can be hard, but we usually learn something from difficult situations. One of the most important lessons I have learnt from everything I've been through is that I should always love and take care of myself. No matter what. It took me years to start prioritizing myself, and I can still see traces of my past life here and there. You are where you need to be. Whatever you experienced in life took place for a reason. 

You can make this day as special or as simple as you want, it's up to you to decide. At the end of the day all these dates hold meanings we assign to them.